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Rachel Good evening tomcat. Its nice to meet you. beguile call me Rachel. Tom Hi Rachel It is keen to meet you a corresponding. Rachel To start come to why dont you tell me a little bit about why you think you be here today and what has been going on for you in your life. Tom I think I am here because my partner thinks I am a drunk. Maybe I am, just now I spend a penny a good reason. Rachel What is your reason? Tom Because my married woman odd me. We were married for 25 years, and she cheated. Rachel I am very sorry to watch that Tom. I rear end understand how that would be hard to deal with. Tom it is horribleWhen I am up, I am thinking of her, thinking of her with someone else, and then drinking to make it go amodal value. I am alone Rachel So would you say your drinking has increased since this relationship end? Tom ummm. I guess it has probably more than a little. I mean the guys and I always had a few on sunshine for football, you agnize. But sometimes I drink and I dont know why? Rachel Would you say your alcohol use has affected your job at all, or other family or social commitments? Tom Well I know I am sick and tired of being hungover in the forenoon and operating the crane.My family was my wife. we ran from family and our love was all we had. It made us reinforced but not strong enough apparently. Rachel Well we definately need to regain you some better ways to cope with this. How would you describe your mood and how you spend a penny been feeling since this has happened? Tom My mood has been getting worse. Its like the worst has happened but I impart this nagging feeling that something unbelievably horrible go away follow it. My body also has these pains and aches and I have no idea where they came fromRachel Well it is definately normal to feel this way after such a stressful occurence in your life. Although it is hard to remain postive, it is important. Do you have any other support in your life besides your wife? Anyone that you could talk to? Tom Well Jim. He is the one who said I needed to hear a counsellor. He said I looked dissheveled. I trust him but I feeling like I am letting him down. Rachel Well that is good that you took Jims advice to come in and talk to someone. It end be very difficult to deal with something like this on your own.It is good to have social support in your life and someone who can be honest with you. Do you see yourself getting into a bracing relationship in the future? Tom I can see that maybe I can move on but I am hurting. I have been too drunk to grieve Rachel why do you think your wife cheated on you? Do you pick this on yourself? Tom I never could give her brains and a body. I didnt have brains and my body is getting too old. She took off to the carribean with this lawyer. I wasnt good enough. Rachel Im true there are plenty of great things about yourself. This is not something you should blame on yourself.I think once you put yourself out there you allow see that many people will find you attractive inwardly and out. Challenging your negative thoughts in ways such as this is the beginning(a) step to feeling better. You will prove your own negative thoughts misemploy and will begin to build a new more arbitrary self-concept. I know right now it may be too early to start dating but you should focus on other things you are good at or that you once enjoyed. Rachel I treasured to ask you a little about your family history. Is there anyone in your family that has suffered from first gear or alcohol abuse? Tom My father drank alot.He was an angry drunk. His female parent was sad alot of the time. She killed herself when my dad was 11 Rachel Im sorry to hear about that Tom. I want to make sure you know that it is normal to feel the way you do right now. I would however suggest talking to your family bushel about taking an antidepressant to help you get back on your feet. It is not something you have to take forever but it can truly help to get your life back in perspective. Unfortunately we are out of time for today but I would really like to continue talking to you about this another time. Tom ok, thank you Rachel